Leave to Grieve. How can you take action for D2KDay?

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Memoleaves was founded by 3 women with a passion to make a difference in the community. Samantha Bladon, a Psychotherapist, Kinesiologist, and End of Life Consultant, Lauren Martyn, a creative media and educational specialist and Yael Naidoo, a photographer and videographer. Their intention is to stimulate reflection, conversation and connection, and finding common ground through sharing stories. 


Memoleaves.com is a website devoted to sharing your stories about grief and end of life. It is a place where you can go to write about your loss, bereavement and pain to help in your healing process. We are meaning-making creatures and do this by the telling and sharing of our stories. Our philosophy is based on the healing arts, where writing about pain and trauma can help in the recovery process. When you visit Memoleaves you can contribute, connect with others or find services and support. Everyone is welcome.

In Australia, when someone in your family dies the standard bereavement leave is 2 days.  Get your head around that? We want the Australian Federal Government to extend bereavement leave entitlement from 2 days to 10 days. 2 days is not enough time to attend to our deceased loved one, plan and have their funeral and grieve. That’s why we have started a petition to extend bereavement leave.

Approximately a quarter of the population are casually employed, therefore not entitled to other forms of leave. No one should be worried about job security while in the early grief.

We are asking for the provision for 12 weeks unpaid extended bereavement leave to be made available within the first 12 months, for individuals requiring extended leave as advised by a GP.

You can help us to make more time to Leave to Grieve

  1. Visit memoleave website and sign our Leave to Grieve petition

  2. Take a few minutes to do our survey

  3. Share the petition on social media Facebook,  Twitter, Instagram, Linkedin, Pinterest

  4. Change your facebook profile in support of Leave to Grieve  

  5. Use #leavetogrieve on all your social media comments.

  6. Share your story about your loss and grief over at the memoleaves website.  We’d love to hear from you. Do you have a stories about an employer who has shown their compassion in leading the way. Tell us a stories about how your employer responded when you needed their support the most.

  7. Upload a video to your social media telling us, “I support Leave to Grieve.” Don’t forget  #leavetogrieve, or tag @memoleaves.

  8. Make an appointment with your local member of parliament or your trade union and tell them why you support Leave to Grieve.

Let’s give more time for our loved ones... # Leave to Grieve.

We want to live in a more compassionate society. 100% of us will die, and grief is an inevitable companion to death.

Media enquiries: Sam Bladon samantha@memoleaves.com 0414 289 445

   Lauren Martyn lauren@memoleaves.com 0403 763 407


This blog is part of the ‘Did You Know?’ blog series where D2KDay is bringing to life conversations and information around death, dying and bereavement.  

Dying to Live: #havethechat about organ donation for #D2KDay

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Knowing about organ and tissue donation is an important part of Death Literacy. In fact, when you #HaveTheChat about your organ donor status, it's a great way to get into the conversation we all know we want to have with our family members!

Groundswell and Dying to Know Day are proud supporters of the documentary Dying to Live. It’s a film that takes you into the lives of seven ordinary Australians whose transplant journeys force them to make every day count.

While transplant rates are improving, Australia remains well behind similar countries and this film’s brave participants ask why, amplifying a long-overdue debate. Australia is 17th in the world for organ donation... our rate is less than 50% of the world's best, far lower than it should be! The people who appear in Dying to Live are the conduit to uncovering the complex web of reasons why Australians don’t appear to understand the urgency and process of registering as donors. This fearful wait on ‘death row’ not only consumes the patients themselves, but ripples out into their families, friends, colleagues and the wider community. Dying to Live takes the audience on a powerful emotional journey as we are compelled to consider our own compassionate capacity for physical philanthropy.

Australia urgently needs more registered donors: many of us don’t even realise that the old system of registering on your driver’s license was abolished in most states, and we now need to sign up via the official website. Despite surveys showing that over 80% of Aussies think it’s important to register, the actual registration rate hovers around 34%. And since less than 2% of Australians die in hospital in the particular circumstances in which donation can occur, we need as many people registered as possible! This shortfall leaves over 1,400 people continually on the transplant waiting list, and 15% of them will die waiting.

How much of this problem simply comes down to the necessity of talking about your wishes with your family? Quite a lot! In Australia, your family has the final say about whether your organs will ultimately be donated. 90% of donations go ahead when the donor has officially registered; this drops to 73% if the donor hasn't registered but has remembered to #HaveTheChat with their family, and falls to just 44% if the donor is not registered and their family doesn't know their wishes. In a world where ‘zero wait’ is achievable (as other countries have demonstrated), it’s simply unacceptable, and morally troubling, for us not to offer this chance at life for thousands of Australians living in fear and helplessness, yet always with hope.

The Guardian named Dying to Live as *one of the top ten Australian films to see in 2018*

We are putting the call out to Melbourne groups that could potentially run a community screening of Dying to Live in the future.  We have limited tickets to give away for the premier screenings at the Melbourne International Film Festival Aug 14 and the Victorian Premiere on Aug 16. If you reckon you're up for hosting a screening in the future and you can make one of the premier screenings then get in touch with Jessie@thegroundswellproject.com for your tickets!

See Dying to Live: 


This blog is part of the ‘Did You Know?’ blog series where D2KDay is bringing to life conversations and information around death, dying and bereavement.  

Share your learning!

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This year for #D2KDay2018 we are inviting people to share their learning and experiences with others. 
It can be anything - a tip about caregiving, something a friend said or did, or maybe a book or website you found invaluable. Maybe a learning about end of life planning? Some information about funerals or body donation. 
It can be literally anything. 
If you are passionate about it... share it! 
We will compile the responses as part of D2KDay throughout August. 
Thanks for being part of D2KDay and the death literacy movement in Australia. 
Here's the link: https://goo.gl/forms/uugtAQGY9hrnzl6f2

Inspiration: The town that loves death

Here is some great inspiration from the people in La Crosse, Wisconsin via NPR.

They are used to talking about death. In fact, 96 percent of people who die in this small, Midwestern city have specific directions laid out for when they pass. That number is astounding. Nationwide, it's more like 50 percent. La Crosse is such an exception thanks to one guy who decided that people in this town needed to make plans for their death.

In today's episode, we'll take you to a place where dying has become acceptable dinner conversation for teenagers and senior citizens alike. It's a place that also happens to have the lowest Medicare spending of any region in the country.

Read the Transcript or listen below.

Love in Our Time: Special Offer for #D2KDay

D2KDay supporters can take advantage of a great offer on a documentary film that's bound to get those all important end of life conversations started on Dying to Know Day.

The screening license for Love in Our Own Time, described as "a stunning and sensitive exploration of birth, love and death", is being offered at 25% off to Groundswell supporters for Dying to Know Day events.

The film follows palliative care doctor Frank Brennan and several midwives to examine birth, death and familial relations in contemporary Sydney. It offers an accessible way of engaging people in discussion about issues relating to death and dying and has been extensively used at professional and community events. 


"Love in Our Own Time challenges me to think about what it is about this life that is important. The privilege of being able to glimpse something of the lives and stories of real people waiting for a birth or a death invites me to think about what these things mean to me, and how I might negotiate their happening. Rather than hide details behind closed (often hospital) doors, the corporeal, emotional and human reality of them takes an overdue centre stage. Life is fragile, and rich and strong and meaningful in our sharing of it with others."

Dr Kristof Mikes-Liu, Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist

“I watched Love in Our Own Time just a month before a friend was diagnosed with terminal cancer. The film prepared me for discussing death with my friend and his wife, as well as helping me to understand and process my own feelings of grief. I found out yesterday that my friend is now in the final stages of the disease and has just a few weeks to live. The film continues to help me on this horrible journey. Thank you to everyone involved in making this film. Your film helped me be a better friend. I've been able to offer better understanding and support because of its insights.”

Laura, Sydney

“Love in Our Own Time is an extremely sensitive exposition of the most profound milestones of the human condition – Birth and Death. We intimately share in the private joys and griefs of the participating families. The filming is honest without guile, gentle and sensitive without excessive sentimentality and at times almost brutally honest. The trust that the families have placed in Tom Murray by allowing him to film these usually most private events is justly rewarded in a truly amazing documentary that reveals people at their most vulnerable.”

Elizabeth Logan

 Order Love in Our Own Time

Supporters wishing to screen the film as part of a Dying to Know Day event will receive a 25% discount on the purchase price. 

Screening license price for Dying to Know Day supporters: 

   0-30 people :                  A$71.25 (was $95)

   31-99 people:                A$146.25 (was $195)

   100+ people:                  A$221.25 (was $295)

Price includes:  

   A screening copy of the film (DVD)

   Digital marketing materials including: Poster/Flyer, Postcard, Graphics for designing your own advertising materials

   Organisation tip sheets: Publicity tips and examples, Example run sheet

Plus extra materials as needed:

   A study guide for secondary school use (Grades 10-12)

   A discount offer for DVD sales on the night, with a proportion of the sales donated to your charity

   Support from the Love in Our Own Time team (who are happy to answer any questions and promote your event on social media)

To order: visit loveinourowntime.com and enter ‘d2kday’ in the 'Apply coupon' field. 

Preview Love in Our Own Time

If you wish to view the film before deciding whether to purchase a screening license, the price of the DVD will be deducted from the purchase price. 

   Purchase the 93-minute version

   Purchase the 56-minute version

Watch the trailer


Listen to an interview with Love in Our Own Time Director Dr Tom Murray by Dr Karen Wyatt of the End-of-Life University: listen now.

Join the conversation at facebook.com/loveinourowntime or on Twitter @birthlovedeath using #loveinourowntime 

Any Questions?

For further information please contact Chloe or find out more about the film at loveinourowntime.com